Based on a sermon
preached at Nuthall Methodist Church, Nottingham on 10th September
2017, using Romans 13:8-14 and Matthew
18:15-20 (full text of readings at the bottom).
The
Beatles sang “All you need is love”. But
what is love?
Our
reading from Romans contained the phrase, “ Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one
another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law” (verse 8).
So
today we look at Love: The Problem, Principle and Practice.
Love: The Problem
The
Problem – Maybe love is misunderstood.
Maybe sometimes it can be like counterfeit goods. We may all have been sold them at various
points knowingly or unknowingly. The Bible
speaks much of love but if it has been “sold” and “bought” under the wrong
meaning and definition of love then it causes problems for our image of God,
our image of ourselves, and our image for others.
I
can tell you that the electrical equipment that “fell of the back of the lorry”
is safe and legal but just because I have said it doesn’t make it safe and
legal. If you decide you want to believe
my assurances about the safety and legality of dubious goods you will start to
be happier about dealing in them and receiving them.
I
suggest that in many places there has been a redefinition of love – a counterfeit.
Such a redefinition of love lets us of the hook and allows us to define our lives
and lack of holiness as OK. It is not
OK.
Love
has been redefined in a variety of ways. Some people treat it purely at an
emotional level, others have allowed lust to redefine it, others have based it
around selfishness and what makes them feel good or pleases them. This is why people can use love as an excuse
for inappropriate behaviour and participate in affairs, or initiate broken
relationships, or objectify others and themselves.
It
may be that some people define love to fit in with what they want it to mean. –
The
root to many problems, including within our spiritual lives can be, if we are
not alert, that we have redefined love.
This is the Problem of Love!
Love: The Principle
By
the principle of love I mean what is love? How do we define it? Because if we
build correct definition and principle of love into our lives then our lives
will be fuller, finer, richer, more as God would have them, reflecting his love
and character.
Do
you remember when
Jesus gives the two greatest commandments he doesn’t say love just with your
feelings. He fills it out. So Mark 12:30-31 says “Love the Lord your God with all
your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your
strength.” 31 The second is this: “Love your neighbour as yourself.” There is no commandment
greater than these.” Heart, soul, mind,
strength! These are organs of will in
addition to feelings. I think feelings
are important. I think we banished emotion for too long from Methodist worship,
but if that is all it is about then we are not hearing Jesus correctly. I heard this joke recently and have used it
in one or two places.
“What’s wrong, Charlie?” asked the Minister.
“I need you to pray for my hearing,” said Charlie.
The Minister put his hands on Charlie’s ears and prayed. When he
was done, he asked, “So how’s your hearing?”
“I don’t know,” said Charlie “It isn’t until next Tuesday.”
We
sometimes have a hearing problem. It’s that we don’t hear what Jesus says about
love. So we need to hear and get the
right principle behind love and what it is about, the right definition.
The
Romans reading gives an insight into love. “The
commandments, ‘You shall not commit adultery,’ ‘You shall not murder,’ ‘You
shall not steal,’ ‘You shall not covet,’ and whatever other command there
may be, are summed up in this one command: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.” But this is not a definition of love for
us. It tells us of some of the out workings
or evidence of us living lives of love.
But that is not how one defines love. Even 1 Corinthians 13, great and
powerful as it is does not really give us the full definition of love.
For
the Christian, Love is not defined with words but with The Word Jesus.
He
defines love and the God who is Love that we are told of in the Scriptures. That
is the authentic definition of love, the best definition of love, the meaning
of love. In Jesus we see what our God of
love is like.
The
principle of love – Love defined as the word Jesus not words or feelings. That is the love we are called to have. Sometimes love is an effort. We do not always naturally love people – or ourselves. But what we are called to is vulnerable, scarred,
transforming, sin defeating, holiness growing, death defying love.
That
isn’t worldly love. It is other worldly love. It is the love of God seen in
Christ and which can be seen in our lives. Will we let God fill us and grow us
with that love? Or will we deal in counterfeit goods? Yes it includes emotion
and feeling, but it never stops at that.
This is our high calling.
Love: The practice
The
Practice therefore is important – love lived out. That is what we are to be about – modelled on
Jesus and him as a definition and principle of love
Have
you heard or experienced these things?
He calls a spade a spade.
She doesn’t suffer fools gladly.
Stupid is as stupid does.
Let them speak, Shan’t listen.
I love them but I don’t like them.
Speak the truth in love.
Teenagers that grunt at you.
Oh he’s a grumpy old man.
These
phrases and experiences are as alive and well in the Christian Church as they
are anywhere else in society. That’s not
good enough. Frankly these are just excuses to be rude. Sometimes we can let
our lives be like that – with all kinds of good excuses, not aiming or aspiring
to love like Jesus.
Don’t
be fooled by counterfeit love. That’s how people justify running off with
someone else rather than holding to their marriage vows. “I love them but I’m
not in love with them”. “I fell out of
love with them”. As if it is all about
how we feel again. Maybe some of us have
said the same things. Sometimes this
counterfeit love means we can get away with mistreating people, or ignoring
people, or turning out backs on them. We
justify falling out with people in church on this basis as well as in the world.
Love
is not an excuse to misbehave but a high calling reflecting the Holy God
himself.
Maybe
there is repentance that is required.
Our
Gospel reading is set in context of care for the followers of Jesus. The verse
we have read and the surrounding verses focus on looking after disciples and
gives a way of dealing with people when they step outside the will and purposes
of God.
“If your
brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between
the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that
“every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.” If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they
refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax
collector.”
The
overriding concern is to help people walk in God’s will and ways. It may be today someone needs to challenge
us. Note this is not about getting rid
of people or punishing them. Even
treating people as a tax collector or pagan is not about shunning them for we
know that Jesus engaged with such people.
Rather it is to acknowledge that we need to reach out to them to draw
them back into the place of God’s will. Sometimes
we need to be called out. The Bible, The Spirit, God, Jesus calls us out and
challenges to get our definition of love right and to put it into practice –
with God’s help.
Our
mission in many ways is to declare God’s love in Christ and invite response.
And I hope that is something I will be encouraging in the role I now have. There
are those that have not experienced love – invite them to experience it. There
are those who are not living the way of love – invite and challenge to
repentance.
“And
they’ll know we are Christians by our love”.
Some of us will know those words from a song. But they don’t always “know
we are Christians by our love” and we need to understand that and acknowledge
it and do something about it in our lives and churches when that is the case.
Love
has an eschatological (speaking of the end things of death, judgement, heaven
and hell) dimension as well as a present one.
It connects with how we are to be prepared for the return of Jesus. “ And do this, understanding the present time: the hour has already come
for you to wake up from your slumber, because our salvation is nearer now than
when we first believed. The night is
nearly over; the day is almost here. So let us put aside the deeds of darkness
and put on the armour of light. Let us
behave decently, as in the daytime, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in
sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy”.
That
Romans passage includes these words, “clothe
yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ” (verse 14). I was part of a Christian Youth Fellowship as
a teenager. It was a large group and we
wanted to buy some sweat shirts which gave the name of our church with some meaningful
words on. So we decided on “Love
conquers all”. Because we wanted to look
a little cultured I guess we decided to have it in Latin. We asked our French teacher at school to
translate it for us. Why we aksed a French
teacher to translate into Latin I have no idea!. Anyway he did that and we
proudly wore our sweatshirts for months. That is we wore them until we found
out he had mistranslated it and what we are wearing was closer to “Lust conquers
all” rather than “Love conquers all”!
Love may not be easy and these few words will not
sort al the problems of love out. But let’s not insult God, others and
ourselves by dumbing it down and making it a pale imitation, a counterfeit of
what it should be. Love will challenge
us when it is the love of God. It means
we cannot get away with weak phrases such as “as long as they love each other”. We have to look deeper and go deeper and find
our definition of love in the person of Jesus who did not let anything go on the
basis that “as long as they love each other”.
Love can be as likely to say “No” as it can be to say “Yes”, because it
is about our wellbeing before God.
I’m not a Scientist, but I know this. There are bad germs and there are good germs
too. I hope today we might pick up an
infection. And spread it! The infection
of love. I hope we might become carriers
of those good spiritual germs. Don’t
wash your hands of love. Let people
catch it and experience it.
Romans
13:8-14
8 Let no debt
remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever
loves others has fulfilled the law. 9 The
commandments, ‘You shall not commit adultery,’ ‘You shall not murder,’ ‘You
shall not steal,’ ‘You shall not covet,’ and whatever other command there
may be, are summed up in this one command: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’ 10 Love does no harm to a neighbour. Therefore love is the fulfilment of
the law.
11 And do this,
understanding the present time: the hour has already come for you to wake up
from your slumber, because our salvation is nearer now than when we first
believed. 12 The night is nearly over; the day is almost here. So let us put aside
the deeds of darkness and put on the armour of light. 13 Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in carousing and
drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and
jealousy. 14 Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think
about how to gratify the desires of the flesh.
Matthew
18:15-20
15 ‘If your
brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between
the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that
“every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.” 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they
refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax
collector.
18 ‘Truly I
tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever
you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.
19 ‘Again,
truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for,
it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.’